My very good friend Ron said that I should vent, cry, do something. Well, this is something. I did not cry when my Dewayne or my father died. Yes, Dewayne dying was rather a surprise as he was dead in a day. He was doing to so good with his chemo. The thing is, I made peace with Dewayne and my father dying. The hardest thing was living with them in those end times. Let me explain. It is hard to see them in pain. When my father was dying he was in such pain those last weeks of his life. He wanted it to be over and it is so hard not to follow his wishes. It was like my great-grandfather. I stayed with him and my great-grandmother in his final weeks as he suffered from alzheimers and bed ridden. On those days when he was lucid, he kept on asking why he wasn't being allowed to die. I think it should be the right of a terminal patient to decide when they should pass. I think it would be much more kinder to those who remain alive to remember them as they were, and not the bed-ridden and weak scarecrows that they are becoming.
So here we are, with mom. She was in pain, terrible pain when the cancer spread to her adrenal gland and caused internal bleeding. Now that we have got her pain under control, pretty much all she does is lay in bed. She has a couple of time felt good enough to go out for the day (usually gambling) but I am afraid for her. I dont let it show as I want her to go out and "be free," as she puts it. She doesn't want anyone to care for her but myself, Roger, his wife V and her granddaughter R and everyone else tells her to hang on, because we care. She isn't in pain at the moment and that is where I want to to be.
Anyway, I think her meds are making her sleepy, way too sleepy. It is a good thing she has a doctors appointment this week and I am going to ask her doctors about it.
Fuck you cancer!